When the holiday season rolls around, it’s easy to lose track of your personal life. Between the parties, the end-of-year deadlines, and the expectations from your office and family alike, you may feel like you have little time to connect with your partner. (And hey, that’s normal.) When you are shopping for your one-and-only, you may be tempted to go the traditional route of jewelry, fragrance, or another accessory. However, what’s even better is an experience gift as a way to recover from the madness that is November and December.
“It can be helpful to carve out special time for the couple to spend by themselves outside the holiday hoopla,” says relationship coach Susan Trotter, Ph.D. “Be kind and compassionate with yourselves and with each other. Planning and having good communication is key to reducing the time pressure around the holidays.”
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Susan Trotter, Ph.D. is a relationship coach.
We’ve rounded up wellness-themed gift ideas that couples can gift to each other as a team, paired with a fun date night to accompany the packaging. Consider it your opportunity to reconnect with the special person in your life.
Get Fancy
When was the last time you changed out of those pajamas and dressed up for a fancy evening away? What if you could have an indulgent experience together… without ever leaving your house? Sign us up! You can purchase this flight which includes 1 oz. jars of caviar, French blinis, crème fraîche, and mother-of-pearl spoons. We suggest pairing the experience with a dozen oysters and a fancy bottle of champagne (a blanc-de-blanc is best!). Turn down the lights, ignite a candle, listen to music, and pretend caviar is something you always buy.
Let Out Your Tension
If the last year hasn’t been your healthiest and your goal for 2023 is to build your strength, endurance, and overall vitality, there’s nothing like choosing one another as accountability partners to help you stay the course. Punching a bag might be the trick if running and lifting weights don’t cut it for you. Not only is it an excellent way to get in shape, but you can relieve stress and anxiety, too. Invest in this FightCamp set that includes the bag, two pairs of premium boxing gloves, a heavy workout mat, a bag ring, two pairs of quick wraps — and even kids’ boxing gloves, if you’re parents. The couple who fights together — in a positive way! — stays together, right?
Ask New Questions
When you’ve been together for more years than you can count, you run out of things to talk about. Not every single day is rainbows and fairy tales; sometimes, it’s diaper blowouts and toddler tantrums. Time may be precious, but finding an ounce of energy for one another can sustain your bond. Try this simple stocking stuffer gift, created by a relationship therapist, that encourages couples to tell stories. Pour a glass of wine, turn off the TV and your phones, and dig in. You will be prompted to inquire in a new way, turn on your listening ears, and see your person differently.
Improve Your Sleep
By now, you’re used to sharing a bed with your partner. But not everyone catches Zzz’s in the same way, and sleep is paramount to physical and emotional happiness. If you run hot and your person runs cold, arguments — and tossing and turning — likely happen more than you’d care to admit. To the rescue are these temperature-regulating sheet sets that absorb heat as you warm up and redistribute it as you cool down. Sheets may not feel like a fun gift, but if you get more rest, you’ll have more energy for, ahem, other things.
Connect Wherever You Are
Long-distance relationships are in a whole other ballpark in terms of difficulty level. Just ask any military family or consultant who travels four days a week to another city. Not having physical time together can cause strain and disconnect, almost feeling like you’re part-stranger to one another. When “good morning” text messages no longer cut it, gift one another these magical bracelets. The premise is easy: You touch your bracelet to send messages or vibrations, letting your partner know you’re thinking of them. And if you want to go a step further, you can download the app to send texts, and photos and to replay touches.
Cuddle Up
It’s an age-old debate that every couple has: Who stole the freakin’ covers?! (We hate to break it to you, but you’ve both been guilty at some point, we promise.) Rather than repeating the same bickering over and over, upgrade your bedding with a big ol’ blanket. Yep, that’s right: a blanket that’s so oversized you, your partner, your kiddos, and your pets will all feel warm and cozy. We suggest keeping this one in your bedroom and using it as an excuse to cuddle more often.
Create a Coffee Shop at Home
In a dream world, you’d go out every day for $7 lattes at a Scandinavian-designed coffee shop and watch the bikes roll past the big, open window. In reality, your budget doesn’t allow for that type of indulgence. However, investing in an espresso machine can make your morning ritual that much sweeter for couples who bond over a solid roast. After you purchase this Breville machine, visit your favorite coffee place and buy a few bags of beans. Pick up a newspaper and toast some bread, and you now have a cafe at home for two.
Go on a Scavenger Hunt
If your typical date night is dinner and drinks, spice it up with the gift of adventure. This appropriately-titled gift includes a scavenger hunt for two and a Polaroid camera. The premise is simple: the book guides you through challenges — cooking something blindfolded, painting a scene, recreating the first date — meant to inspire you. You can consider it your roadmap for 2023 to have more fun together.
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