Shelby Sells

Contributor

Shelby Sells is a love, sex, and life coach based in New York City. She uses her holistic background in Transformational Life Coaching to empower authentic relationships with the self and others. Her mission is to hold space for people to explore their sexuality and relationships with healthy attitudes.

Sex

Using Porn as a Tool for Pleasure

What is ethical porn?
Sex

Sex-Ed Should Be For Everyone: Why the Curriculum Is Overdue for Change

We all need more inclusive language and education about gender, sexual identities, and STIs.
Sex

How to Get Your Libido Back If You Have Quarantine Burnout?

Stress is a huge wet blanket for our sex drive.
Sex

Best Last Minute Sex Wellness Gifts

Happy St. Valentine's Day!
Love

New Rules of Dating in COVID Times

Safety over everything.
Sex

Heat Things up With a Massage Candle

It's getting hot in here.
Sex

Why I Vibe — 3 Women on Their Relationship With Their Vibrators

Suggestions included.
Love

We Ranked 7 Dating Apps to Help You Swipe Right

Remember to have fun!
Love

Living Apart Together (LAT) May Save Your Relationship

Sometimes we all could use a break.
Love

The Cuffing Season Schedule You Never Knew You Needed

We have officially entered the drafts.
Love

5 Breakup Apps to Get You Through Tough Times

We believe in life after love.
Sex

A Sexologist On Her Tantric Journey

Intro into tantra: how it empowers my inner lover.

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