Authored by Shelby Sells

Shelby Sells

Shelby Sells is a love, sex, and life coach based in New York City. She uses her holistic background in Transformational Life Coaching to empower authentic relationships with the self and others. Her mission is to hold space for people to explore their sexuality and relationships with healthy attitudes.
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Using Porn as a Tool for Pleasure

What is ethical porn?

Sex-Ed Should Be For Everyone: Why the Curriculum Is Overdue for Change

We all need more inclusive language and education about gender, sexual identities, and STIs.
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How to Get Your Libido Back If You Have Quarantine Burnout?

Stress is a huge wet blanket for our sex drive.
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Best Last Minute Sex Wellness Gifts

Happy St. Valentine's Day!
PARIS, FRANCE - SEPTEMBER 30: A guest wears a red wool scarf over the head, a black face mask, golden earrings, a turtleneck pullover, outside Kenzo, during Paris Fashion Week - Womenswear Spring Summer 2021, on September 30, 2020 in Paris, France. (Photo by Edward Berthelot/Getty Images)

New Rules of Dating in COVID Times

Safety over everything.
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Heat Things up With a Massage Candle

It's getting hot in here.
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Ashley Graham and Justin Ervin arrive at Gigi Hadid's birthday party at Chalet, April 22, 2019, in New York City.

Living Apart Together (LAT) May Save Your Relationship

Sometimes we all could use a break.
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The Cuffing Season Schedule You Never Knew You Needed

We have officially entered the drafts.
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5 Breakup Apps to Get You Through Tough Times

We believe in life after love.
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A Sexologist On Her Tantric Journey

Intro into tantra: how it empowers my inner lover.