Alex Dacy is a disabled content creator dedicated to disabled body representation, disability justice, and body confidence. She shares her life with her over 120,000 followers while dispelling myths about what it means to be disabled. Here we talk about common misconceptions about disabled people, some of Alex’s favorite beauty products, and more.
SE: What is a misconception people have about you or your abilities?
AD: As far as disability misconceptions — the list is endless! One of the most common ones is that I’m not sexually active. Disability and intimacy are hardly ever portrayed by the media and when disability is represented, it’s in a non-authentic way that plays into the abled-gaze (what nondisabled folks believe the disabled experience is) — typically layered with pity, misfortune, and suffering — which is far from the truth.
There’s also a common misconception that I’m in pain, suffering, or am displeased with my body due to my disability. Disabled bodies are not inherently flawed or “imperfect.” They’re just a state of being as any other body. Ability or lack thereof does not negate worth or value. The focus needs to be shifted from seeing disabled people as inspirational for loving what society deems as a “broken” body to showing up for disabled folks in a real way by fixing the things that aid in devaluing disabled bodies such as accessibility, representation, poverty, etc.
I think my Instagram connects with so many people because I provide a lot of education not only about disability but about body confidence and the intersection of those two things. People want to learn. People want to see minorities and marginalized bodies being represented. People want to see something different.
SE: What strategies do you use to feel confident and sexy on days when you’re feeling down?
AD: Doing a sexy disabled body lingerie photoshoot always makes me feel incredibly confident if I’m having a low body image day. Also, just giving myself space to feel what I’m feeling — even if it’s negative. Toxic positivity is the idea that disabled folks must appear as a pillar of strength at all times so we can motivate those who are not disabled. Feeling positive all the time is unhealthy for anyone. We are humans and being human comes with feelings! Letting yourself lean into your feelings is essential to self-love and growth work.
SE: What are some of your favorite beauty products?
AD: I LOVE both makeup and skincare. This year especially, I’ve dived into one too many YouTube makeup tutorial black holes. I have so many favorite beauty products but to name a few, I love Bare Minerals — I’ve been using BM since I first started experimenting with makeup as a teen and my mom gifted me their first set for Christmas over 10 years ago. I also love Fenty Beauty, benefit, and too many more brands to name!